
A Sermon Delivered on March 22, 2026 by the Rev. Dr. Patrick H. Wrisley.
Let’s set the scene: Today we have a story about four friends separated from one another by distance. Sisters Martha and Mary, along with their brother Lazarus, live in Bethany, a small village just a few miles from Jerusalem. Jesus had recently been in the city for the Feast of Dedication, but had to make a hasty retreat when the religious officials became so angry with him that they tried to stone him. So, Jesus took the long, hot road down to the Jordan River, to the very place where his cousin John had baptized people before John’s beheading.
In the time it took Jesus to make that two-day walk from Jerusalem to the river, his dear friend Lazarus had become deathly ill. Martha and Mary sent word to Jesus: Lazarus is dying but if you come quickly, you might still save him.
Jesus then waited two more days before he and the disciples climbed the long mountain road back up to Bethany. By the time he arrived, Lazarus was not just dead, but he had been in the tomb for four days.
We pick up the story as Jesus walks into Bethany and is met on the road by Martha. The very first words out of her mouth in verse 21 are an honest, grief-laced indictment: Jesus, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.
In response, Jesus simply asks her: Do you really believe in the resurrection and the life? Hear now the Word of the Lord.
John 11:27–37
27 She said to him, “Yes, Lord, I believe that you are the Messiah, the Son of God, the one coming into the world.”
28 When she had said this, she went back and called her sister Mary and told her privately, “The Teacher is here and is calling for you.” 29 And when she heard it, she got up quickly and went to him. 30 Now Jesus had not yet come to the village but was still at the place where Martha had met him. 31 The Jews who were with her in the house consoling her saw Mary get up quickly and go out. They followed her because they thought that she was going to the tomb to weep there. 32 When Mary came where Jesus was and saw him, she knelt at his feet and said to him, “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.” 33 When Jesus saw her weeping and the Jews who came with her also weeping, he was greatly disturbed in spirit and deeply moved. 34 He said, “Where have you laid him?” They said to him, “Lord, come and see.” 35 Jesus began to weep. 36 So the Jews said, “See how he loved him!” 37 But some of them said, “Could not he who opened the eyes of the blind man have kept this man from dying?” (NRSVU)
Imagine this scene in your mind: Jesus walks into Bethany, and he is at once surrounded by a crowd of mourners. The village is practicing what Jewish tradition calls sitting Shiva, the ancient custom of surrounding a grieving family with your physical presence for up to seven days. You speak of the one who has died. You cry and wail on behalf of the bereaved because the family may simply have no more tears left to cry. Death, for our Jewish neighbors, both then and now, is a deeply social event. In the Jewish tradition, you do not grieve alone.
So, picture this very emotional reunion. Jesus is surrounded by weeping friends and neighbors huddled around the two sisters. First Martha had met him on the road. Now it is Mary who makes her way to him. She falls at his feet and greets him with now a twice-voiced indictment: Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.
It is at this moment that something breaks open in Jesus. Surrounded by the tears of people he loves, he becomes undone and it is here we arrive at what is often called the shortest verse in the Bible: John 11, verse 35. Jesus wept.
His best friend is dead. He looks at these two sisters, women who now have no one to provide for or protect them and his grief is simply too much. He just loses it.
Our text this morning uncomfortably reminds us of a question all of us have asked at one time or another.Reading this text honestly, we cannot miss the gentle but pointed dig from Mary and Martha: Why didn’t you come sooner? Jesus, you could have prevented all this pain and sadness! And then the crowd gossips about the same thing, “This guy could open the eyes of a blind man so why could he not save his own friend? Why, Jesus? Why?”
If we are all honest, we have asked that same question. It seems everyone is levelling the proverbial “would’ve, should’ve, could’ves” at Jesus.
“Would only you intervened, Jesus!”
“Shouldn’t you have helped me when I prayed?”
“Couldn’t you have cured my mom?”
Events have occurred in our lives that have caused us to pause, look up toward heaven, and ask, “Why, God?” So why did Jesus wait, not only until his friend was dead and buried, but as we read further in this story, and as the King James Version so eloquently states, he waited so long that the body stinketh?
Here is my best shot at an answer.
In John’s Gospel, Jesus is fully and deeply aware of his identity as the very presence of the Almighty dwelling in the world. His claim as the Great I AM, woven throughout John’s narrative, affirms that. And it is my conviction that Jesus knew something important: if he was truly the Resurrection and the Life, if he was truly God-among-us in the fullness of our humanity, then he was going to need to fully enter our human condition in every possible way. Including way all of us travel: To experience the journey of the pain of loss of a loved-one.
Lazarus was different from the throngs of crowds and strangers who came to him for healing and solace. In John’s gospel, the love Jesus expressed toward the crowds and strangers he healed is the familiar ancient word, agape. Agape is the sacrificial, intentional, willful, gracious love offered to those who have done nothing to earn it. It is a self-giving love. But agape-type love describes a different kind of bond than what Jesus had with Lazarus.
Notice what the crowd says in verse 36, “See how he loved him.” The word John has the crowd using here is notagape. It is the word for filial love, brotherly or sisterly love that is deeply personal and affectionate, full of emotional intimacy. It is the word for the kind of love that exists between people who truly know and get one another.
Lazarus was not just somebody to Jesus. Lazarus was a soul brother. He was family. He was the kind of friend with whom Jesus could be authentically himself. Lazarus’ house was the place where Jesus could let his guard down, rest his feet, and simply be himself. No crowds. No noise. Lazarus’ home was a sanctuary.
So why let Lazarus die? Why not spare his dearest friend?
Well, it is about God’s passion for us. To fully relate to all humanity in the depths of our common experience, Jesus not only had to face the death every person faces, but he also had to feel the searing, gut-level anguish of losing someone intimate. Not from a divine vantage point above the pain, but as Jesus a man living fully inside human skin. He had to know what it feels like when the person you love most in the world is gone.
This moment at Lazarus’ tomb reaches forward to Good Friday. Just as Jesus felt the sting of losing his beloved friend, God the Father would feel the sting of losing his only Son on the cross. Grief is not one-sided but experienced physically, emotionally, and relationally within the whole Triune God, Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Father, Son, and Holy Spirit experience the depths of our darkest pain, confusion, and loss. God gets it.
Jesus wept neither as performance nor pretense, but as a man who felt the full weight of what death does to the people left behind. And in his weeping, he sanctifies our tears. He showed that grief is not about a lack of faith. Grief is love with nowhere to go. The Good News is God knows that feeling from deep within God’s self.
So beloved, where is Jesus when it hurts, when life goes sideways and nothing makes sense? He is in the middle of it all.
It means that as you read the headlines, as you carry the fears that silently hum in the background of your thoughts through the day – fears for your family, for your health, for our country and the tyranny of war, for all this hurting world – the God who created all that is, was, and ever shall be is not watching off from a safe distance. God is present. God is deeply moved. God is weeping with you and me.
As we finish looking at our text this morning, reflect upon the fact that the Christian faith is the only faith in the world that draws its strength from the fact that the God we worship and serve is a God who personally knows how to cry. This our God cries for us. Our God cries with us.
And here is the miracle of it: those tears do not mean God has been defeated, but when Jesus wept at Lazarus’ tomb, he then called Lazarus out of it. The One who weeps is the same One who resurrects. The One who stands in our grief is the same One who conquered the grave.
As we move through this season, let this text be a source of genuine comfort for you. In the moments when you look to heaven and ask, “Why God?”, remember that heaven is not silent or indifferent. The God who is, was, and ever shall be holds every star in its place and numbers every hair on our heads, feels us in our pain and is affected by it. But he does not want us to wallow in it but just like with his best friend, Lazarus, he calls us forward into new life and into hope.
In the Name of the One Who Is, Was, and Is to come. Amen.
© 2026 by Patrick H. Wrisley. Sermon manuscripts are available for the edification of members and friends of First Presbyterian Church of Glens Falls, 8 West Notre Dame Street, Glens Falls, NY 12801. This sermon may not be altered, re-purposed, published or preached without permission. All rights reserved.


